My own life experience and the coaching of dozens of women on body image topics, I come to realize this: we all look for confidence in the wrong places.
And it’s to be expected: society teaches us to feel and react a certain way to external conditions and circumstances in life, and unfortunately little time is spent working on the inner game.
Part of working on this “inner game” is to understand the rules that our brain has created for ourselves, and to always be assessing whether we still like those rules, or if we want to create new ones.
One of the hardcore rules I had a few years back was that I could not leave the house without makeup.
Now… back in the day I didn’t even think it was an option. Like, I was so stuck in my own belief on how this was A FACT, and it was not to be questioned… that for many years… I did not question it.
But one day I remember talking to my homeopath about my anxiety and I came to realize that the expectation to always be “well put together” (whatever that means) was keeping my exhausted and honestly feeling kinda crazy.
Here’s the thing with circumstances in the world: they aren’t inherently good or evil. The problem isn’t makeup, skincare, or the focus on our physical appearance. The problem isn’t the media or society for that matter… the problem is the lack of connection to our inner shit.
The problem is when WE don’t question these internalized beliefs and we live by default, acting as if we don’t have an option.
Don’t get me wrong: I love me some eyeliner, and trust me, you will keep seeing it in other videos. This one I went no-makeup just because I felt it went well with the topic.
Remember: our brain is design to create all kinds of “rules” because this is a way for it to save energy and be efficient. But the real growth and the real challenge comes from questioning those rules, and from not choosing to live by default.
Always ask yourself:
- What is the rule I’m following here?
- Who created this rule?
- Do I still like this rule?
- If not, how do I change this rule?
Now in this video, I’ll show you:
- How to stop worrying so much about your skin, makeup (or lack thereof).
- Why emotion should always be your compass for deciding whether a thought or belief is serving you.
- Why paying attention to the type of content you consume is key.
- Three ways to challenge yourself and move towards discomfort slowly.
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